Debriefing Questions - Two Approaches

Debriefing Questions - Two Approaches

The Appreciative Approach - Start with what was positive and move from that point forward in debriefing.

  1. What was life giving to you?

  2. Why do you think it brought life to you? (what were the values/principles at work that made it life-giving)

  3. What three wishes do you have about the event? ("wish" anything: what could be different, better, done a different way, any wish or prayer)

  4. How would you like to apply what you have learned to your life? what is it that you learned and how will you put it into practice?

The Luke Ten Approach - In Luke ten, Jesus "debriefs" his disciples after he sent them on a short mission. He listened to their report and then turned that into a teachable moment for them. In this approach, you start with what happened, celebrate what was blessed by God, then focus on what was learned, and then proceed to what needs to be changed, and how will that make a difference.

  1. What happened? Ask the person about the event - to describe the facts first.

  2. How do you feel about it? Ask the person to share their feelings, good, bad, glad, mad or sad.

  3. What did you learn? What was God teaching you through this event? The questions move from facts, what happened, to feelings, to learning.

  4. How will you apply what you learned? What changes will you make in your life? How and when will you make them?

Discipleship is Intentional Relationship

Discipleship is intentional relationship …

  • Discipleship in intentional relationship by initiating spiritual conversations.

  • Discipleship is intentional relationship by asking people their dreams.

  • Discipleship is intentional relationship by hearing a person’s story.

  • Discipleship is intentional relationship by coaching people to share with others what they are learning about God – before they are saved.

  • Discipleship is intentional relationship by encouraging people to gather their friends in intentional relationship to discuss God’s word.

  • Discipleship is intentional relationship by mentoring people to hear God speak to them in the Bible, before they come to faith.

  • Discipleship is intentional relationship by affirming people.  Jesus called Peter to be fisher of men before he was born again.

Great Questions to Ask Someone You’re Discipling

  1. What is God saying to you these days?

  2. If you could do anything you long to do, what would it be?

  3. What do you do that is most life giving to you?

  4. How would you describe your times alone with God?

  5. When you’re under pressure or attack, how do you respond?  Why?

  6. Describe your personality & spiritual gifts when you’re in the flesh, not the Spirit?  What does that look like?

  7. If you could have anything your heart desires from God, what would it be? For example, if God gave you a blank piece of paper and he signed it and said, “Fill it in... ‘I will give you anything you want’ “, what would you write on that paper?

  8. Where would you like to be in your relationship with the Lord a year from now?

  9. What are your spiritual growth goals? How can I assit you in achieving those goals?